aren't you proud of yourself for... Emotional part - let kids know they are ok could use Mood Meter from RULER may need to motivate differently depending on mood Safe secure place is crucial Help children reflect how feeling and dealt with those feelings Understanding another's perspective Communication crucial it a two-way street Important build relationships Consistency important Fine line give or take away (this answer sounded me like punishment...) Should be organic Rephrasing your language instead of saying you proud student can say Goal setting helps Different for all